Woman says she can’t get a date because she’s on welfare

Woman says she can’t get a date because she’s on welfare

Woman says she can't get a date because she's on welfare

Lynn McDermott says “it should be about how the person is on the inside, not a disability” (Image: SWNS)

A disabled woman says she has been made to feel “undateable” because she is on benefits.

Lynn McDermott, 48, claims she has even been called a “parasite” by potential suitors when they find out she is not working.

The single mother, from Southampton, says she gets the payouts legitimately, but that doesn’t stop men she chats with on sites like Plenty of Fish and eHarmony from either trashing her or getting nasty.

She said: ‘A guy told me I was a parasite. He said, “You can walk and talk, why can’t you work?”

“I’m not financially able to take people out, but most of the men are divorcees who seem to think I’m after their money.

“I’m not looking for any kind of handout in any way, I’m looking for love and that’s all I want. I just want to be loved and love someone else.’

Lynn, whose children are grown and have left home, was diagnosed with endocarditis and underwent valve replacement on Boxing Day 2017.

She then spent six months in a coma, from December 2017 to June 2018, before returning to hospital a month later due to immunological problems.

After recovering from the ordeal, Lynn was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and was found to be immunocompromised – meaning her body was unable to fight off infections and diseases.

Lynn McDermott says men refuse to date her because she has advantages (Image: Lynn McDermott / SWNS)

Due to her health conditions, Lynn receives Universal Credit, PIP (Personal Independence Payment) and ESA (Employment and Support Allowance) – totaling approximately £21,000 per year.

She said: ‘My disability is that I have heart failure, but you’d never know it to look at me.

“I’m being put down as disabled and unable to work because of my disability – but no one would know this because I don’t have a leg amputated or anything and I just get on with my life.

“I had a PIP assessment and the papers with me with the problems I have – the heart failure and everything will not get better.

‘If [men] ask me what I’ve done in my life, they realized I’ve had a huge career, I’m driven and I think let’s see what I can do.

Lynn claims she has even been called a ‘parasite’ by potential suitors after they find out she doesn’t work (Image: Lynn McDermott / SWNS)

“I would like to question why people on benefits are not fit to be on dating sites – these sites ask you how much you earn and what your job is, so I say about £21,000 is what I get in a year.

“I get loads of responses. I was last on Plenty of Fish six weeks ago and got 354 replies from people – they obviously like the look but they just don’t appreciate that I’m disabled and on benefits.

‘I went on a date with two of them and the first words are, “Are you a divorcee?” and “Do you own your own home?”

“A guy I recently dated asked on the second proper date about finances. I said, “What does that have to do with anything?” He said he didn’t want anyone to siphon off all his money because he was loaded.

“The hallmarks should not be about anything, it should be about how the person is on the inside, not a disability or that they are ‘sucking the life out of Britain’.”

The single mother, from Southampton, says she is claiming disability benefits legitimately (Image: Lynn McDermott / SWNS)

“I’m an open book and that probably aggravates men because I want to challenge it.

“I’ve had a couple of people say, ‘Yeah, everything you’re saying is right – but it’s still not for me and I can accept that.’

“What I don’t accept is that I can’t date because I’m on welfare and people on welfare are nobody, they’re scum.

“For me, I don’t know where this hatred of benefits comes from.

“Every man I ask says it’s about what I can offer them rather than what they can offer me, and they don’t want someone who doesn’t have the ability to take them out.

But that doesn’t stop men she chats with on the sites Plenty of Fish and eharmony from dismissing her (Image: Lynn McDermott / SWNS)

“I can still go out to dinners, drive, everything – financially, I just put my costs to what I’m going through.

“All I want is trust, reliability, for them to love me as much as I love them – it just shows how uneducated and judgmental they are.

“A strong woman behind a strong man can only be positive. It doesn’t matter if they have pounds in the bank.

“If people want to judge me without knowing me, that’s their fault.”

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